Dear Amy: I wonder if my brother, “Stan”, wrote me off because I wouldn’t lend him money.
In 2015, our two parents died several months apart.
Stan and I each inherited $ 20,000. I put my money in CDs. I don’t know what Stan did with his legacy.
He always had a bad habit of asking relatives for cash loans and never paying them back.
About a year after my parents died, Stan called me to ask if I would lend him $ 30,000. He never said why he wanted the money.
I told him that my money was tied up in certificates of deposit and that I would have to pay a penalty to withdraw the money. (I wasn’t planning on sending him money, anyway, because he’s such a bad risk.)
He looked annoyed and ended the phone call.
Stan has never called me since. Before this last call to ask for money, he called me about once a month. Now if I don’t call him, I’ve never heard of him.
I make the effort to call him once or twice a year and he seems friendly enough, but it’s always me who makes the effort to keep in touch.
Do you think my brother wrote me off because I wouldn’t lend him money?